In Defense (?) of a Solo Road Trip

I went to visit my parents this weekend (my mom, having lived in Central PA for the past 15 years, recently moved back to my hometown in Western NY, where my dad still lives). Jeff wasn’t able to/didn’t want to take off work (ever the workaholic), so I embarked on the 6 hour drive on my own. I’m not usually one to drive lengthy distances by myself, but this trip reminded me of what a delight a solo road trip can be.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a good car trip with Jeffrey – we’ve perfected the singalong (we have our harmonies down pat at this point), and it’s nice to have someone to chat with. I also love a road trip with friends, of course. But there’s something so refreshing about a nice, long trip with nothing but your thoughts and your music – no one else’s taste to consider. Your own snacks. Your own Podcasts (if that’s what you’re into). Your own route. Your own stops. The possibilities are endless.

For me, this meant a lot of time to think – about everything. Things that don’t matter. Things that do. The past. The present. The future. That sounds kind of deep and serious, but it really wasn’t – sometimes it’s actually fun to just think about whatever comes to mind, uninterrupted. Despite my anxious tendencies, very rarely did a stressful thought pop into my head. Go figure.

This also meant a renewed love for my music. Remember how I’ve said on multiple occasions that I’m in a major music rut? Well, all it took was 12 hours in the car by myself (and a little solo hotel time to boot) to renew my love for a whole plethora of music, plus discover some great new jams. I think this is partially because local driving (where I typically listen to the bulk of my music) is often distracted – only long enough to listen to a few songs at most, and I’m often only half-listening, while thinking about daily tasks. During an otherwise silent 6-hour drive, I’m able to fully immerse myself in the music (and/or sing at the top of my lungs).

On that note: I’m really digging Grizzly Bear’s most recent album (Painted Ruins), and discovered that I prefer the songs with Ed Droste on lead vocals, rather than the ones headed by Daniel Rossen (in case anyone was wondering). Also, I’m surprisingly pretty into Florence and the Machine’s new album…I’m not sure why I’m so surprised since I’ve enjoyed most everything she’s put out in the past, but there you have it. I originally checked it out because she’s coming to Philly in October with Grizzly Bear as her opener, and I REALLY WANT TO SEE GRIZZLY BEAR LIVE, but could take or leave Florence and is it worth the cost of a ticket to basically just see the opener? Okay, now I’m just rambling. But anyway – take a solo road trip if you get the chance. Very enjoyable.



The 5 Most Formative Albums of my Youth

A Facebook post I saw recently made me think…what albums were the most formative for me? You know the ones: they come along at just the right time in your life and form your music taste and even part of your personality for the rest of your adulthood. There were three that came to me immediately and stuck out in my mind with no question, but I had to think a bit before determining the last two. These aren’t necessarily my favorite albums (although they’re all great, and a few of them definitely make my top 10 or even top 5 list), but what they did helped to cement my entire identity from the point I first heard them forward.

Here they are, the most influential albums of my young adulthood:

1. Good News for People Who Love Bad News by Modest Mouse


I listened to this album on repeat when I was going through a bad breakup, so it signifies my newfound independence in my mind. Before this breakup, I struggled to find my own identity – I was more an extension of my (older, much more outgoing) longterm boyfriend. I did develop some of my own taste during that relationship – I had started to stray from my previous preference of singer/songwriters and jam bands to stranger, more indie bands that were just gaining popularity at the time – but mostly kept in the shadow of those around me. When we broke up, I temporarily moved in with my best friend and bought this album after Modest Mouse had been recommended to me by an ex co-worker (who I still keep in touch with today – thanks, Traina!). It sticks in my mind because it was such an emotionally raw time, but after I fell in love with this album and out of love with my ex (much, much later), there was no turning back. I was finally my own person, and I liked what I liked. I had always liked slightly different music than my peers (my taste was heavily influenced by my psychedelic music loving father), but from here on out I’d seek out the unusual and the unique, and was proud of it. Basically what I’m saying is, my tendency to be pretentious and obnoxious (and the fact that Jeff’s always referred to me as “hipster adjacent”) is Modest Mouse’s fault.

2. We Were Dead Before the Ship Even Sank by Modest Mouse


Of course, when Modest Mouse came out with a new album less than a year after my aforementioned breakup, I bought it immediately (along with two other albums – more on that below). These three albums are the first that I specifically remember going to the music store and purchasing on my own as an adult (of course, I had purchased CDs before this in general – I was 22 when this came out in 2007 – but this is the first time I remember choosing completely on my own, as an adult, without any influence from friends or boyfriends). I remember listening to the samples on those big headphones they had in the music store (talk about a throwback) and racing home to wrestle the CDs out of that horrible plastic covering and listen to the whole albums on repeat. This was also one of the first albums I introduced to Jeff when we started dating, and the song “Florida” got him to open up to my music a little (which is saying a lot, because Jeff likes a total of about 4 bands).

3. Funeral by Arcade Fire


This is probably tied for overall most influential album of my adulthood with Modest Mouse’s GNFPWLBD. This album was one of the three I purchased that aforementioned day, and it blew my damn mind (along with probably every other indie band loving human in America/Canada), and remains arguably my number one favorite album of all time to this very day. I don’t love what Arcade Fire’s become over the years – I’m not sure if they got too big (remember when they instituted a black tie rule for their concerts?) or if my tastes just slightly changed, but most of what they put out these days is just “meh” to me…but this album was a true masterpiece. The arrangements were so lush and dramatic without being over the top, the melodies were gorgeous, the lyrics were beautiful and authentic. I can’t think of anything wrong about this album. This is the album that caused me to start telling people my favorite genre of music was “indie” (which I feel conflicted about to this day – see this).

4: Wincing the Night Away by the Shins


This was the third album I purchased on that day in 2007. I was already familiar with The Shins (mostly from the movie Garden State), but this was the first album I really fully dove into by them. Along with Funeral, this album helped cement my love for “indie” music, and got me to dive into Sub Pop (the record label that helped make a lot of early indie bands into mainstream names).

5: Our Love to Admire by Interpol


By the time I started listening to Interpol, I had started hanging out with people who had similar interests and musical tastes to my own, and these friends introduced me to a lot of the music I listen to even now. Again, I was already vaguely familiar with Interpol, but this particular album kicked off my long-lived obsession with everything Post-Punk. Wrecking Ball off of this album remains one of my all-time favorite songs, and Miley Cyrus can’t take that away from me.

Honorable Mention: Veckatimest by Grizzly Bear


This one just missed the list because it was a bit later when I got into it (I was already living in Delaware when it came out), but it helped to transform my musical taste into the form it is today. The previous albums introduced me to indie music, but it took me a few years to really nail down my true taste. I spent a lot of time convincing myself I enjoyed really out there music, when in reality I just liked it because it made me feel cool – I actually think a lot of that stuff is just noise and couldn’t be paid to listen to it these days. See: Neutral Milk Hotel and most Animal Collective (minus the song “My Girls,” which is a masterpiece). My taste continues to evolve and change to this day – I’m now almost exclusively into indie folk or whatever you’d call Dawes and Blitzen Trapper type stuff, but also go through periods of being obsessed with hip hop or even more poppy electronic stuff – but I feel like this album helped me really settle into myself, or at least came along during the time that was happening for me.



Sad Music For Happy People

I love all sorts of music, but there’s something SO GOOD about a heart-wrenching, goose-bump inducing tearjerker. That said, I’m not really one to listen to sad music when I’m bummed out – I typically prefer to listen to really sad music when I’m happy. Why is that? Maybe because when you’re generally happy, life feels a bit…dull, but in a great way? Kind of like something’s missing, but you definitely don’t want that something. But listening to a really sad, soul-crushing song can make you really feel alive for a minute, even if you don’t necessarily relate right in the moment – it’s kind of like, proof you can still feel pain like a tortured artist even if you’re a grinning goofball in reality.


Here are some of my all-time favorite sad bastard songs:

  • Talking In Code ~ Margot & The Nuclear So and So’s (GOD this song is good – best breakup song of all time, in my book)
  • The Gold ~ Manchester Orchestra
  • Simple Math ~ Manchester Orchestra
  • Lightness ~ Death Cab For Cutie
  • Transatlanticism ~ Death Cab For Cutie 
  • I Don’t Want Love ~ The Antlers
  • A Lack of Color ~ Death Cab For Cutie (this song actually isn’t really sad, but it has that sad feeling – also, Death Cab is clutch for this type of music, clearly)
  • Should You Return ~ Copeland (if you want to get REAL sappy)
  • Colorblind ~ Counting Crows (also great for your, ahem, sexy time playlist…which, oddly enough, is the case with several of these songs – all that raw emotion, man.)
  • Black And Blue ~ Counting Crows
  • Dizzy ~ Jimmy Eat World
  • 23 ~ Jimmy Eat World (This was actually our wedding song, HA!)
  • The Big Fight ~ Stars
  • Not Your Lover ~ Blitzen Trapper
  • Discoloration ~ Dawn Golden
  • Cold Fame ~ Band Of Skulls
  • That Western Skyline ~ Dawes
  • Curs in the Weeds ~ Horse Feathers
  • Darlin’ ~ Houdmouth
  • My Baby Don’t Understand Me ~ Natalie Press
  • NYC ~ Interpol
  • Leif Erikson ~ Interpol
  • I Can’t Make You Love Me ~ Bonnie Raitt (The classic!)
  • The Background ~ Third Eye Blind (Your classic dead lover cancer song)
  • Casimir Pulaski Day ~ Sufjan Stevens (another cancer song for good measure)
  • Demons ~ Guster

Another option is to just listen to straight Radiohead – pretty much any Radiohead will do, but In Rainbows is a good album choice for the real soul-crushing stuff.

Happy weeping!

Fall Playlist

Here are the tunes I’ve been getting down to this season:


For the Damaged Coda ~Blonde Redhead

Only Love ~Anthony Green ft. Nate Ruess

Listen to the Math ~Tokyo Police Club

Spit on a Stranger ~Nickel Creek

River ~Civil Twilight

Keys ~Hooray for Earth

Sunrise Sunset ~We Are Trees

Noticed ~Mutemath

Twin Rivers ~Big Scary

I Can Breathe Again ~Baywood

Let Me Go ~Cake

I Want to Know What Love Is ~Amason

How Deep is Your Love ~The Bird and the Bee

Age of Consent ~New Order

Policy of Truth ~Depeche Mode

Enjoy the Silence ~Depeche Mode

Humble ~Kendrick Lamar

See You Again ~Tyler, The Creator

Changes ~Charles Bradley

Wild and Reckless ~Blitzen Trapper

Back in Your Head ~Tegan and Sara, ft. Ryan Adams

Feel it Still ~Portugal. The Man

Freeze Me ~Death From Above 1979

The Alien ~Manchester Orchestra

The Gold ~Manchester Orchestra

Talking in Code ~Margot & The Nuclear So And So’s

Gooey – Glass Animals

Kisser ~Step Rockets

Mid-Week Escape

Last night, Jeff and I took off work early and headed up to Philly to catch a concert at Festival Pier.

We wanted to avoid rush-hour traffic, so we decided to get an early start and were off & running by 3:30 or so. Despite not quite missing the swarms of traffic that clog 95 every afternoon (d’oh!) we arrived in the city shortly after 4 and settled in at Cuba Libre for happy hour. Recommended to me by some friends, Cuba Libre is this amazing Cuban restaurant and rum bar in Center City, and they have THE most amazing food and cocktails. They have a killer tapas selection for happy hour, so we each knocked back a couple of drinks and gorged ourselves on plantain chips and guac, padron peppers, ablondigas, and empanadas. Whoops, so much for healthy eating and not drinking on weekdays!



It was a beautiful – perfect, really – evening and Penn’s Landing wasn’t far, so we walked from the restaurant to the venue. After a couple of meh openers (All American Rejects played, and let me just say that if you’re familiar with the lead singer’s character on Parenthood, they apparently toned down his real-life personality when writing for him), Dashboard took the stage. Although I ultimately purchased the tickets for Jeff’s benefit, I’m secretly a huge Dashboard fan myself and definitely fangirled out a bit. Chris Carrabba sounds AMAZING live, and he seems like a delightful, classy guy. All around, it was a pretty great night, and it felt good to let off some steam mid-week.